To do?

Today my brother and i had a small argument, which really steamed up my nerves for the way he thinks about the subject.

We were talking about some relative who got married at an early age; 19 approximately! I was strongly disapproving of his decision. I mean come on, he's 19 year old for gods sake! Why would he take upon his shoulders this enormous responsibly? But what shocked me the most is my brother's reply: If i had money now i would have dropped school and got married ..!

Is this how guys think at this time? getting married for a vague reason? I highly doubt those intentions are made solely for the purpose of providing for a family and having a child, rather than getting laid "bel 7alal".

This is absurd. Getting married was never about satisfying physical needs, and sadly, alot of guys think this way. Marriage is a sacred institution that requires huge amounts of work and sacrifice to make it work. Add to it the extra physical and mental effort that you have to add just to keep a stable and successful marriage.

Sadly, boys at this age, seem to forget about the consequences that accompany this decision. They seem to forget about the dowry, the apartment and and furniture. They seem to forget about providing for a wife. And given the fact that he got married at 19, it'll make more sense that the pride is no older than him and surly doesn't work! Hence, she requires lots of expenses out of necessity. They seem to forget about the upcoming baby, the expenses of its clothes and food. They seem to forget about the fact that a human being is about to be introduced to this world who needs extra attention day and night. They seem to forget about grocery, electricity and water bills, fuel expenses, car and house repairs. They seem to forget about the sleepless nights they'll have to endure over an argument or a child's cry.

I feel sorry for them and disgusted at the same time. Because, and this is how i see it, people who throw away their life at an early age [where life has just started] and get married and then ultimately get shocked by the reality of it, will eventually either cheat on their wives or get divorced! Because when the time came for them [early twenties] when they're supposed to have fun and be themselves and establish themselves, they found themselves married and changing diapers while their peers are having a wonderful and responsibility-free life! It's a logical mathematical outcome; a later reflex. In other words, "te6la3 el 7arra ba3dain"

Bottom line ....? 25 years old is the minimum for a guy to get married. Period.
What do you think?


Btw, i just found out today, that when a girl is ready to get married, she can state in the contract; as a condition, that she forbids her husband of getting married to another woman later on. If he happen somewhat to break this condition, his marriage is immediately annulled which ultimately signify, ADULTERY! So yeah, Islam IS fair to women. Ladies, set back and relax :P
But somehow, i find it scary that this fact is neglected and not mentioned! Is this what guys want? for girls to be oblivious so that the have the liberty of polygamy? Well not anymore "evil laugh" ....
Please check with your "marja3" for this Islamic rule.