Two way street

Sometimes i wish i was a phsychic for at least i would know what the hell were people thinking about.

Now let's skip for a start the whole moralistic - pure human being heart of oh i never expect anything from people, what matters is the feeling i have inside when i give bla bla bla. We all love too damn good to receive something from people, aren't we? so correct me if i'm wrong on this .......!

Now suppose you have a good friend of yours that you just loove giving her gifts even without a particular occasion. Even on her birthday, you can't wait just to give her this special gift; designer wallets, key chains, perfumes, teddy bears, outfit and anything that you might think will bedazzle her. Accordingly, you kinda expect something on your birthday too [who are we kidding! :D]. But .................... you don't!

You think to yourself that maybe she's saving it for another day, another week, another month, another year ....... wait a minute! a year? next thing you know you reached your following birthday! So you also kinda expect something but ................ zero! again!

Now i'm not being greedy and i'm not short handed on anything thank god, i'm independant and therefore can buy almost anything i want. But i can't help it, really. It's quite puzzling, and i kept wandering for some time just wondering what could possibly be the reason for her not to buy me a present? had i been cheap with my presents? but i kept on giving in every birthday of hers, excusing her also, maybe she didn't have enough money to buy me some in return. But several gift-less birthdays should force you into thinking, shouldn't it?

I'm not sad, angry, frustrated or even agitated. In fact, i'm puzzled! confused also. What could possibly be the reason? she's not cheap at all! And what makes this math equation more difficult is that she asks me beforehand what do i want for my birthday! Out of modesty i reply: slamtech, don't bother yourself etc ...!

Is that it? if i say nothing then that's it? :D
Seriously, i'm laughing while writing this. I hope i can have an answer for this weird habit other wise my head will explode at the enormous amount of thinking it operates.

9 Interruptions:

Anonymous said...

kel 3am o enti bkheir :p

KJ said...

I kinda was like this and then I lowered my expectations considerably.

But then one day it happened in the opposite. My friend always buys me stuff and gifts and I don't buy him, and then one day he called and he was like "man even though I have X and X, I wish I have an X for me to use that you gave me!"

And I did, lol

Anonymous said...

I have an answer, Go ask her ;P

Eng_Q8 said...

اذا اانت اكرم الكريم ملكته وان اكرمت اللئيم تمردا

eshda3wa said...

dont buy her a gift next time
oo happy birthday!

Anonymous said...

3idek mabrouk , nice blog

Ms Loala said...

Chika,
Wnty b5air ;)

inoor,
You are sooo true!
I don't know why people do that! I mean, they always look for the price first then the item!
For me, it's always been the item that comes first, then the price. And if it's overpriced .... well, i'll look for a good bargain ;p

Kj,
Cool!
So i lowered my expectations the same thing will happen to me? ;p

Fayoora,
3yazt men el naqzat, ma yefed ;\

Eng_q8,
Fits just right in.
Welcome aboard ;)

Eshda3wa,
I'm starting to do it, though i hate this strategy :\

Hypnotidoctor,
Ayamik sa3eeda.
Welcome aboard ;)

FourMe said...

am sorry to be the one who breaks the news to you.. but .. Your friend is cheap! she just asked out of formality and when you said salmtich it was her get out of jail card. Sometimes things are really clear infront of us but we refuse to see them, I suggest that next bday you ask her what she wants and if she says nothing or something.. don't get her anything!!!

Hamza said...

I don't know if my comment will be useful or not. but I am really one of those who don't classify friends by the number of gifts they give. I have a case where i gave gifts for a distant friend more than for a close friend. And this is because it just happens. Its not because I don't want to give my close friend a gift.

Moreover, I believe that people should give gifts only when they feel like it and when the gift is really coming from your heart and not because they HAVE to give a gift.